2016 Swim

I’ve compiled a list of some of my FAVorite swimsuits for this season! My suggestions are all a bit on the modest side (my apologies if you’re into bikinis!) and are less than $100. I want them all!!!! It’s so hard to pick just one…or two…or three. Seriously, I have a problem when it comes to buying swimsuits…

Terrible "Twos" (Part 2)

I get it.
You’re in the trenches with a toddler and need practical help.
You need to have a goal, a big picture, a plan to be able to grasp, and you need to know exactly what steps to take to get there. I’m hoping you read the first article that gives the birds-eye overview of training and discipline. I’m also hoping that you have read Shepherding A Child’s Heart by Tedd TrippIt is ALWAYS imperative that you know the WHY before the HOW.
With that said…here is the best of what I’ve got for:

How To Handle The Terrible Twos…and Beyond…

  1. Right Away, All The Way, With a Happy Disposition

    You might be wondering when to discipline and when not to. In our home we have used this particular phrase: “You must obey Mom and Dad “RIGHT AWAY, ALL THE WAY, and WITH A HAPPY HEART.” That is how we define complete obedience. All three must be present for the child to have fully complied with a command or instruction.  Ephesians 6:1 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord.”
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  2. Be Proactive In Training

    In order for your child to obey completely they must first understand what is required of them. It is kindness to show our children what we expect before we discipline them for not doing it.

    These three phrases of obeying right away, all the way and happily are your base line for where you will begin training. You want to create ‘practice exercises’ in the home to teach your child to obey right away, all the way and to do so happily. If the child only does two of the three requirements, then keep practicing until all three are met. When your child does finally do it, praise him and encourage him!

    Start with basics like “come here please,” “stop,” “no,” and then keep going from there. Your child needs to understand what to do when you say a particular command. The same will apply for putting on their shoes, putting toys away, how to share, teach what your child SHOULD do when they are finished eating (most kids just throw food onto the floor). The list is endless. There is so much for our kids to learn and they are like little sponges that can ‘get it’ so quickly!

    ****Remember: Training is the teaching time when your home is peaceful, NOT in the heat of the moment. Training is taking a skill or behavior that you would like your child to learn and teaching that skill with love and encouragement during normal times in the day. Be intentional. Carve out time to do this. Enjoy this part of the process.

    Q: How do you know if your child is old enough to be able to be trained?

    A: I like to tell parents that if their baby can reach their arms out to ask to be held or picked up then your child is old enough to begin training. First training exercises are for babies about 9-10 months old and will be very simple, but very effective.

    Ex: Teaching to not grab glasses off of your face, teaching to stay on a blanket without crawling off, teaching to look at you when their name is called, teaching what “no” means, teaching not to touch a computer, teaching how to put food away on their tray, etc.
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  3. Training Issue or Discipline Issue?

    Training: If my child is acting out on something I have NOT yet trained for, I personally always give a “warning” rather than discipline. But immediate training will follow the warning to not repeat that particular behavior.

    Discipline: If the skill HAS already been trained/taught, the next thought in my mind is whether or not my child obeyed the command I gave right away, all the way, with a happy disposition.

    Real Life Example: I ask my child to take their shoes off, put them away, and walk upstairs to put on pajamas (which is a compound command that a young toddler is old enough to handle). He responds by doing what I asked but lets out a huge whine, grunts loudly, and stomps his feet all while doing what I commanded.
    Has my child disobeyed?
    Yes.
    Even though he is doing the action, I do not consider that complete obedience. I would then say to my child, “Son, Stop. Look at my eyes.”
    (child does so but gives me an angry stare)
    “Your actions are disobedient and will not be tolerated. You body is doing what I asked, but your  mouth and your face are not happy. You are showing mom that you are angry in your heart. You have one chance to come back to the exact same place where you started and try that entire command again. You are to obey right away, all the way and happily.”
    Depending on the mood of the child in that moment he will either go back, re-do that command (yes, I literally have him go back and stand in the exact same spot and I speak the original command again) in the right way…or my child will once again go through the motions but with the same angry disposition. If the child chooses to disobey again I will calmly, but firmly, say, “Okay, son, you have made your choice to disobey again. I’m saddened by your choice, but you need to meet me in the bathroom.”
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  4. Designate A Place

    Do not embarrass your child and discipline him in front of others. Your goal is never to shame him but to bring him to repentance. If you take these steps with others watching the focus will not be on whatever you say, rather it will be on what others are thinking. I always recommend having a private place to speak with and discipline your child. Jesus taught us, “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.” Matthew 18:15

    We have chosen the bathroom as the “go to” spot, but any private place in the house will do. This is especially helpful when you have more than one child and you first have to take care of the one not in trouble. Remember, though, that when times are calm you also must train your child HOW you expect them to walk to the bathroom when you give that command. Slamming a door, stomping their feet, wandering off to another spot in the house, hiding, screaming as they walk…none of those are obedient ways to get to that spot.
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  5. ALWAYS Train and Discipline IN LOVE:

    God disciplines those He loves. Your child is not just a project to take on. Love must undergird everything you do. Your child is a person who needs love and needs to see the Gospel lived out through you.

    “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not arrogant or rude, it does not insist on its own way, it is not irritable or resentful, it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
    1 Corinthians 13:4-7

    An attitude of love and kindness deals not only with our children’s hearts but ours. Our responses to our children’s actions, including their sin and disobedience, matters in a huge way. The anger, control, and selfishness in our own hearts can so quickly bubble up and we cannot ignore it.

    In Galatians 5:22 we see the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. We need to ask ourselves, are we responding in love? Are we teaching with kindness? Are we training in gentleness? Are we patient? Are we being faithful to keep going even when it’s hard.

    If you have not handled yourself well in responding to your child, apologize to your child and ask for forgiveness. We are imperfect people and we blow it all the time. Yet even in my own wrongdoing I want to teach my kids that I will be predictable in my imperfection. WHEN I wrong them, because I will, I will repent and apologize and ask for their forgiveness. I will point them once more to look to the only perfect example, which is Jesus, not me.

    I don’t care if my child is a 1 year old and only understands 1/3 of what I am saying, or they one day are a grown adult and taller than me…if I have wronged someone, fully apologizing is my first priority.

    Real Life Example:
    My son disobeys by hitting another child. Confession: If I’m honest I don’t think anything gets me mad quite like one of my kids hurting another. The mama bear comes out quick with this one. There’s almost no buffer time for me…I get super mad really fast. Anyway…let’s say one son hurts another son on purpose. I respond by immediately raising my voice, grabbing his arm and yelling at him to go straight to the bathroom. When I meet him in there I yell at him about how foolish what he did was. My son is crying and I am fuming mad. Would this be the best time to discipline or spank my child?
    Uh…No.
    I leave the bathroom for a few minutes to go back and check on the son that was hurt. I take a moment to get myself under control. I pray for peace and think through what it is I’m trying to teach in that moment. Then I go back in and I begin with an apology. “Son, mom spoke to you in a way that was unkind. I love you and I really do want good for you. But I also want good for your brother. For you to hurt him on purpose is not loving, but mom wasn’t loving either. Will you forgive me for speaking so harshly toward you?”
    “Yes.”
    At this point I have a choice. I can follow through with controlled and loving discipline (meaning spankings) resulting with an apology to the child that he hurt. OR I can hold my child closely and we can talk through the sin that is in BOTH of our hearts. The Bible is clear that a soft answer turns away wrath and I have seen this to be SO true over and over again in this kind of setting. There is a sweetness that follows whenever I repent to my children. No parent is perfect and I would be the first to raise my hand in admitting I’m far from it. But I am consistent at letting my kids know that too. When they see me as their mom owning my wrongs, apologizing and seeking forgiveness, I am not only leading by example but I am showing them there is something bigger and beyond us that we both need. I need a Savior too. “For ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God…” For me to point my children to the only One who is perfect is the weightier lesson in that moment.
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  6. Think Through Verses That Apply:

    Training is not just for our children to learn how to respond. It is for us, as moms and dads too. Your child’s disobedience teaches you about your own dependence on God. When there is down time and you have the house quiet, even if it is for five minutes a day, learn your Bible and search for verses that you can cling to in the moment. There is a Child Training Bible kit that I highly recommend that I use ALL of the time in our home. It is a bit of work to get it set up but once you have it you can refer to it daily.

    This discipline of thinking through verses that apply to our own hearts first will also give you a great deal of insight into what the issues are going on in your child’s heart. And keep this in mind as you learn and grow: Sometimes it’s more than dependence that my Heavenly Father is after it’s complete desperation for Him. We aren’t learning these things to be able to quote them. We learn to be able to live it out.

    Real Life Example: If a child steals a toy, the deeper issue is that it is not loving, in fact is is rude and selfish to take without asking. Rather than yelling and then quickly swatting, the conversation (beginning with eye contact on your child’s level) could look like this…
    “Sweetheart, does that toy belong to you?”
    “No.”
    “Did you take it without asking?”
    “Yes.”
    “What is it called when someone takes without asking?”
    “Stealing.”
    “That’s correct. And the Bible is clear that stealing is a sin. Were you loving or unloving toward your brother when you stole from him?”
    “Unloving.”
    “That’s right honey, and love is never rude. Love is never selfish. I want you to give the toy back to your brother and patiently wait until he is finished. Then you will ask him if you may play with it. Please go and make things right with your brother.” (Always offer what TO do, rather than just telling your child what not to do.)
    returns toy…”I’m sorry for being selfish and unloving toward you. Will you forgive me?”
    ***Note: If child will not obey the command you gave of returning the toy and saying what you have requested…then the issue becomes a discipline issue.

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  7. Learn To Talk WITH Your Child, Rather Than AT Your Child.

    You must learn to make eye contact, to slow down, to listen, to speak calmly and to ask good questions. Seek to understand what might be going on in your child’s heart. Learn to evaluate and discern and teach them what it is like to communicate effectively. Learning to discover internal issues will help you know what aspects of the Bible need to apply to that particular situation. Teach your child to express themselves with words rather than resorting to screaming or crying.

    Real Life Example: My child is running throughout the house while another child is napping. It is important to teach my child at a very early age to be aware of his surroundings and to have concern and care for his new baby brother. I begin with saying the child’s name one time. the simple command to “Stop.” My child stops and looks at me. I then say something like, “Honey, your new baby brother is taking a nap. You are running and being very loud. Is that loving toward your brother?”
    “No.”
    “You’re right, it’s not. If your baby brother doesn’t get the rest he needs then he won’t be happy and it’ll be a tough thing for mom too. I need you to think of his needs and be quiet for him.”
    “Okay mom.”
    If my older son continues to be loud and disregards my command then I will move to discipline.

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  8. Develop a Common Language & Choose The Right Words:

    Giving accurate Biblical words or catch phrases to what actions or sins a child is continuing to engage in will help to develop a Biblical understanding of the truths and principles behind the instruction. Replace worldly terminology with Biblical terms. A few examples to use are:
    Promoting peace
    Disrespect/Respect
    Disobedient/Obedient
    Stirring up trouble
    Returning evil for evil
    Selfishness
    Pride
    Anger
    Self-Control
    Loving one another

    Using Biblical terminology will call the disobedient action what it is. God’s words have power and it is God’s wisdom that will get through to the hearts of your children. Hebrews 4:12 explains, “The Word of God is living and active; sharper than a double edged sword; it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.”

    Real Life Examples:

    -“Were you promoting peace or were you stirring up trouble?”
    -“Was ignoring your bother loving or unloving?”
    -“Are you choosing to repay evil for evil when you hit back?”
    -“You need to be self-controlled. You are not under control when you throw a fit.”

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  9. Talk Through a Way of Escape and Role Play to Reinforce.

    1 Corinthians 10:13 says that when you are tempted, “God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” If our Heavenly Father has set such an example for us, shouldn’t we bestow the same kindness toward our own children?

    When we offer only discipline for wrong behavior and fail to train in the correct behavior, we will exasperate our kids because they are unaware of the way out. This provokes our children to anger…not to mention us too, having to deal with the same disobedient behavior repeatedly. This is a HUGE deal, so I hope you’re still paying attention: Parents must teach the correct behavior anytime a child is corrected for wrong behavior.

    Practical: It rarely matters where we are…we have done this at home, in the grocery store, in parking lots, at friend’s houses, at church, in the middle of Disney, and in the aisles of Costco…if I have to correct a behavior, I will have my child act out the correct behavior with complete obedience. If obedience is not complete, then we will continue on with either more attempts to practice or move to discipline.
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  10. Disobedience Is Not A Personal Offense

    I KNOW it’s going to feel that way, it often does for me too. Yet when our children do not obey our commands, it is not to be taken personally. Your child’s disobedience does not measure your value any more than his obedience showcases your achievement. We cannot allow ourselves to become angry at what they have chosen to do because their sin is ultimately what is in their own hearts. It right for us to hold them responsible for it but not to become easily angered by it. Ultimately their sin is against a holy God and it is kindness for us to free them from what is stuck inside of their hearts. Again, please read the book from Tedd Tripp Shepherding A Child’s Heart for more of an overview on this…trust me, it’s worth the time.
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  11. Discipline. 

    There is no clear plan Biblically for exact steps as to how this part should go. I honestly believe that every couple should talk through in detail what you feel comfortable with. Talking through it ahead of time not only serves as a consistent standard for the child to understand, but it can also be a protection for any parent that might struggle with taking things too far in regards to spankings.

    We have taken the approach that our children will be spanked with a wooden spoon. We have chosen the amount of spankings based on their age, believing that the consequence increases as they grow older.
    For a two year old it is 2 spankings for each offense. For my 7 year old its 7…and so on. The only time when that number increases is if my child’s heart is still angry after the first round. If there is anger, or hitting or grunting or any of the such, then I will calmly, but firmly, spank that same amount again. I will then ask my child, “Are you ready to soften your heart now?” If there is more anger and more grunting, then I will repeat the same round again until the child is clearly softened. Never can we become angry in those settings. In fact it should move us to the opposite. The more hardened my child becomes, the more compassion I have for him. It breaks my heart to see my child continue to fight what is God’s best. I will remain steadfast in my aim to bring him to repentance, but my heart is soft as I gently plead with him to not stay hardened.
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  12. ALWAYS RESTORE!!!

    Restoring a child to a joyful disposition is absolutely necessary. One of the main points of training and discipline in the home is to create peace. When a child is left to do whatever he wishes with no regard to anyone but himself it is extremely frustrating, not to mention dangerous. If mom or dad is continually angry and fed up, then there isn’t peace and there certainly isn’t oneness.

    I would strongly argue that training AND restoration are far more important than even the spankings themselves are. A child that does not feel close to his parents will likely continue to act out all the more. I am not a child psychologist and I have no fancy book to quote from, but I can say from quite a bit of experience that a child who feels unloved will act in an unloving way.

    Whenever I end a discipline session I do whatever it takes to make sure my child knows he is loved. I remind him of why I discipline, I remind him of my love for him, I pray with him and confess my own sin with him. Sometimes we sing a song together. By the time we leave that bathroom we are smiling and often times even laughing with one another again.

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    Final Thoughts:

    Discipline and training are never ending opportunities to remind our children of their need for new hearts, not just good behavior. No matter how obedient, or how compliant their actions are it will never be enough. Jesus lived a perfect life in their place for their sin and it is a joy to be the one to continually teach, explain and live out that truth before my kids day in and day out.  “For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son that whosoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him.” John 3:16-17

    In case you’re wondering, yes, this process takes a LOT of time and a LOT of work. It’s hard and there are plenty of days I get tired and don’t want to spend another minute in that bathroom. But I promise, the work is worth it. You will reap what you sow. The harvest of a well trained, well loved, loving child who understands their need for a Savior and the gift of grace is a sweetness like no other.

 

Terrible "Twos" (Part 1)

The Beginning…

You’ve endured months of morning sickness, a pregnancy that has left your body forever changed, barely survived a painful, traumatic delivery…you’ve fumbled through breastfeeding, figured out sleep schedules, made the tough call on whether or not to vaccinate, could describe in detail every baby product on the market and figured out how to survive on little to no sleep yet still be a functioning individual during the day…the hard part is over right?!

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Things were finally getting good…

You’ve been enjoying the recent months of staring into that precious face in disbelief that your body could have made such a thing. You’ve held that sweet little miracle bundle of joy closely, prayed for and sung to her almost every night. You’ve cuddled, you’ve bonded, you’ve laughed and watched him make his first steps! You’ve celebrated his first birthday and are excited about the future of having more children….

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but…..

Something isn’t working anymore…

That sweet little angel blessing from heaven above has somehow turned into a little fire-breathing, fit-throwing hellion…seemingly overnight…and you’re not quite sure what to do. You’re lil’ “muffin face sweet cake” isn’t so sweet anymore and is often melting down, whining, has somehow learned what the word “no” means, can (and does) scream it at the top of his lungs, and you are at the end of yourself.

You’re beginning to realize that the true work of motherhood has only just begun and the thought of adding more little people into your home leaves you frozen with shock and a great deal of fear. Each day you think in your mind, “If I can only make it until nap time”…and then after nap time is over, “If I can only make it until bed time”…and most days, when the lights finally go out, it’s all you can do to muster up enough strength to crawl in your bed and cry yourself to sleep.

As the tears stream down you wonder…”Is this just MY kid? Where do I even begin? Is there any hope? Who could I ask for help? Does anybody have any wisdom? There’s gotta be a book…but which one? I don’t have time to waste on figuring out which book is good and which one is bad…I’m too tired to even think through what to do…because tomorrow is coming and I’ve got to get some sleep before this all starts up again…”

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Real Life

In case the thought has crossed your mind as to how exactly I’m reading yours, let me assure you I’m not reading your mind.

I’m sharing my own.

I know this story all so well because I’ve lived it many days over. I’m right there in the middle of my own parenting journey too and in all honesty I should be getting some much needed sleep before my own new day begins again tomorrow…

But sweet mama, let me tell you…there’s hope.

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I can say with all confidence I know what to do with the terrible twos now. Life is like that isn’t it? You get through something difficult and learn a ton, and then you realize if you could go through it again you’d probably do things a bit better.
And that’s just what I did.
Like Ground Hogs Day.
My life just kept repeating.
Toddler after toddler after toddler….
I just kept having kids until I nailed the terrible twos!
Yep, I’ve got this down pat now!
Oh wait.
No.
That’s a TOTAL lie.
I haven’t nailed the terrible twos at all…

But I sure have learned A LOT along the way. And if any part of my life will bring any benefit whatsoever to anybody else’s life then I believe it’s worth the time, and an extra late night or two, to write it down.

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The Bottom Line

I now know who is in control of our household. And here’s a hint, it is NOT my two year old. The methods and systems we use now weren’t put in place overnight and it’s not some magic pixie dust wisdom that was sprinkled on me or my kids when I gave birth. I feel confident in where I am now because of all of the millions of ways I have failed first.

I’ve spent years compiling info, reading books, learning through observation and interviewing moms I respect. And although I think my computer generated blog post title is catchy I can say with all of my years of experience that there is no “complete” guide to motherhood out there anywhere. I feel like I could write an entire book on exactly how to handle a tantrum and exactly how to end a melt down, with maybe even a chapter or two on how to PREVENT them and it still wouldn’t be enough.

It takes grace. And a lot of it.

Not to mention that every single child, mother, family and household is different.

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But, even with all of those missing factors taken into account I believe there are a few things that can at least get this convo going that might bring some benefit to you, your child, and your household.

So, with that said I’ll try to break this down as simply as I can…let start with one of the biggest hot topics in parenting…

To Spank Or Not Spank?

The issue of whether or not to spank is so well articulated in the book Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp. If you are a Christian and are on the fence as to whether or not to spank please read his book.  Or if you are wondering what the difference is between worldly spankings verses biblical heart focused discipline I would highly, highly (did I mention highly?!), highly recommend beginning with this book. Tedd Tripp does a far better job than I ever could at spelling it all out so if you’re not sure whether or not to spank please stop reading my blog right this second and click HERE and have his book sent to you…and then stay up ALL night reading it. 🙂

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What Godly Discipline is NOT

Godly discipline is not just about a bunch of rules. Those who attempt to simply create standards, or measures, or rules to abide by miss the hearts of their children. To simply use a method of any kind to control your child’s behavior merely affects the outward…and thus begins the biggest lie we can ever teach our children, that acting right means they are good people.

Teaching our children to act right does not mean we are raising them right.

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As a family we have never used a sticker chart or an award system of any kind to merit good behavior. My kids get enough of that at public school. Godly discipline is two sinful parents taking seriously their God given role to faithfully, repeatedly, tirelessly, and unreservedly teach, instruct, and train up our children in the way they should go.

Biblical discipline is not an uncontrolled use of physical punishment for a bad deed, rather it is training in righteousness and instruction of the Lord.

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Your Child Is Born Sinful.

Your child is a sinner. No, you’re not the only parent with a child that throws massive temper tantrums in the middle of a grocery store! And even if your baby is cuter than the Baby Gap Poster Child your child is still a sinner. Not “strong willed”, not “has a personality quirk”, not a “more lively demeanor” than the next child…it’s called sin.  It only takes a couple of toddlers at the park who all want the same toy to show us what is bound up in those little hearts. “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
All includes….all. Me and my kids too. You and your kids too.

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What IS Biblical Discipline?

Biblical discipline gets to the heart of the problem. We don’t need to focus as much on the outward actions so much as we do the inward cleansing our children so desperately need. We are told in Proverbs 22:15, “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.” Put simply, what is in the heart determines the behavior. Proverbs 4:23 says, “above all else guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.”

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Discipline is Only Half of the Problem…or even less

God has called us to instruct our children, not simply discipline them. In Ephesians 6:4 we are told to ” Bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” I wrote about this in a sort of playful way with the How to Train Your Dragon Part 1 and Part 2, but training is serious business that takes a lot of time, a lot of consistency and a heck of a lot of work.

“Discipline” meaning correction from the rod,  is only half of our job and I find that the second half of “instruction” requires far more effort than the discipline part….so much so that I usually tell parents that my job is 80% training/instruction and 20% discipline/reproof. I am a firm believer that you should never discipline a child for a skill that hasn’t been taught.

 

Instruction and teaching must never ever be separated from discipline.

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Proverbs 29:15 we learn “the rod and reproof give wisdom but a child who gets his own way bring shame to his mother.” (Was there ever a more perfect verse to describe that moment of a total meltdown right in the middle of Target with every other mom watching?!)

So I know what you might be thinking…This is all big theory and I need something PRACTICAL! Just tell me what to do to fix this right now!

And just hang on a sec…I’m getting there! If you’ve spent any time around this blog at all you’ll know that there’s always a WHY before a HOW TO. And that’s most assuredly on purpose… 🙂

For Post #2 click HERE

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Front Porch Snacks and Spring Outfit

 

 

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SKIRT: H&M   // SHIRT:  H&M light pink basic tee, similar HERE and HERE  // SHOES: SWYT Culture   //   SUNGLASSES: Urban Outfitters, similar HERE


I just cannot get enough of this lil munchkin! He is constantly by my side and asking to be held. He loves to read, loves to try to walk on his tippee toes, laughs like madd when he sees me do jumping jacks, loves to play pretend and loves to have tickle fights. He is constantly asking for kisses and never ever wants daddy to put him to bed…or do anything for that matter. It’s ALWAYS “I want mom!” 🙂 And I’ll take it for as long as I can! One of my favorite things to do with my kids is sit out on the porch and eat snacks or have popsicles. We love picnics and we love being outside together.

And I love outfits like this one that are super comfortable AND cute…and that don’t break the bank. 🙂 This skirt is thick and fits tight (both of which I loved) and I also love that I can pair it with just about any color of top. And these shoes…they come in so many colors and the best part is that they have girls’ sizes too! Kate had a pair exactly like mine but her feet are growing so stinkin’ fast she already can’t wear them. Oh gee…Guess I’ll have to order some more…oh bummer! 🙂

 

31 Tips For Flying With Kids

Traveling with kids may seem like the impossible, but believe me it isn’t. I have been out of the country with a child as young as 2 weeks old and have flown numerous flights with 3, 4, and 5 kids with me. I love to travel and even though we don’t get to as often as I’d like I actually really love getting to travel with my kids too. I’ve definitely learned some things along the way and I’d love to share some ideas with you…

  1. Flying Times: Think through flying times and when it will be most convenient for your kids and the normal schedule they are on. For little babies plan a flight time that is during their nap time so that you can have them sleep the whole flight. For older kids plan a flight time that is during their happiest time of the day…usually mid morning, that way you can put them down for a nap or have down time once you arrive.
  2. Back Of The Plane: Honestly I feel like this depends on the time of day….If flying at night or during your babies nap I would avoid the back of the plane like the plague. It’s super annoying to have people coming to stand in line for the bathroom, not to mention the smell, and the flight attendants tend to chit chat back there as well. BUT, if traveling during the day, not during a nap time, then I would highly recommend the back of the plane. Those seats are usually the very last to fill up and we have had many leftover seats for our rows because everywhere else filled up first. And if the flight attendants love your cute kids they’ll let you walk around in the back and bring your kids extra snacks, stickers, and wings.
  3. Wear Black: I don’t think I have ever flown anywhere with my children and not ended up with baby poo, spit up, food, or someone’s drink spilled on me. Find your cutest all black outfit and rock it.
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|30 tips for traveling with KIDS!
  4. Flight Activities: For babies the best advice I have is a few books and little movies, but for slightly older kids think ahead of activities they can do for 30-45 minutes at a time. If you have a 3 hour flight then plan 4-5 of those activities (for the way there and the way back). Come up with activities that involve being creative and things that won’t make a huge mess. One of my favorite options are these crafts called Foil It. There are a ton of variety as far as themes for both boys and girls and even my three year old can do them!
  5. Pack Smart Snacks: Pack your own snacks, but be smart about them. Snack time can also be an “activity” if you’ll think through it. I love snacks that involve dipping or building or scooping. I normally feed my kids healthy meals, but flight time is more of an “anything goes” kind of time. Things like Lunchables or Nutella w/dipping sticks, or celery and peanut butter with mini chocolate chips that they get to put on themselves…any idea to get your child to build their own food and then eat it helps pass the time away. Whatever it takes to get through it! 🙂
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  6. Medicine Kit: Bring your own meds. I have made the mistake many, many times in thinking that if I needed anything I could always just go out and get it…but when your on a plan and kid is suddenly hurting or sick you don’t want to waste time trying to figure out where to get meds fast. I always have Children’s Dramamine for motion sickness, Tylenol, Ibuprofen, Cold Meds, cough medicine, Childrens Tums, Neosporin, Bandaids etc….
  7. Don’t Overpack Diapers: I always take only what I need for the flight out and maybe the first day. Packing them is always so bulky and you can easily buy a package once you get where you are going. (The exception is if you’re leaving the country, so ignore this one if that’s the case!) One you arrive at your location buy a package that you’ll use for your time there and enough to get you back home and it’ll save you a ton of space.
  8. Bring Your Stroller: When you go through security it’ll be a pain…everything will take time to dismantle and get through the scanners, but after that you can roll right up to the gate, down to the side of the plane and they’ll load it into the bottom of the plane for you. Always be sure to ask the flight attendants if the flight is full….if it isn’t then they’ll possibly even let you take your car seat and put it into an empty seat for your child. It’s super helpful to be able to have the buckles as well as something familiar to your child to fall asleep in. However, personally I never choose to take the car seat with me. I always prefer more space in the seat than the extra bulk of having/carrying it. Keep in mind though that most rental car companies have car seats available, so if you’re heading somewhere and are renting a car anyway ask about the fee for a carseat rental too. There’s pros and cons for both ways, but it’s good to know there are options.
  9. Getting Through The Security Line: When traveling with a baby I highly recommend using the stroller and taking it all the way to the gate, but if you don’t plan to use or bring such a large item I would recommend an Ergo or Moby wrap to wear while you wait in line. You can scoot your bags along or even have bags on your shoulder while holding your baby comfortably all the way up until the last minute. Put everything into the bins to be scanned and then take your baby out at the last second to walk through the scanners. If traveling with toddlers or older, explain in detail exactly what will happen so that every child knows exactly what to expect. It is hard when they feel clueless about why they have to put their things in bins and then right after that confusion are told to walk alone through a scanner past scary dudes dressed in black with guns. Explain it all in advance while you’re waiting in line. Have them watch others ahead of you. A child refusing to walk through the scanner alone while everyone else is waiting and getting frustrated it is not fun. Trust me. 🙂 Go through the scanner first to show them is not bad and then have each child follow you through to the other side.
  10. Give Kids Their Own Backpacks: If traveling with toddlers or older kids, have them carry their own backpacks with their own stuff. They feel excited to get to be a part. I pack their own toys, a few books, their headphones and some presents (usually small things from Party City or the dollar store) and art projects in their own backpacks and give them each their own snacks to take out whenever they would wish to eat something. I put a small pack of tissues, a travel size wipes, some sanitizer, their favorite blanket or stuffed animal, and a little bit of candy in each of their bags. Here’s a tip for you: If the present you buy has bulky packaging take the item out and wrap it in wrapping paper. Unwrapping their new things is obviously super fun, but it’s also another way to take up a tiny bit more time of them playing with something. The flight attendants come around so often with trash bags so just make a pile and hand it to them to toss.
  11. Changing Diapers: Don’t be shy. Taking care of what your baby needs is more important than you trying to be scared to offend others. Some airplanes have changing tables but if they don’t you can just change your baby right there in your seat. You can ask those who are next to you if they would be okay with it, and most of the time they are, but if not kindly apologize and get done what you need to do. 🙂
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  12. Use the Bathroom Beforehand: With older kids plan ahead and make sure you get to the airport in plenty of time to get through security but also to take each of your kids to the bathroom before boarding. Hopefully that’ll save you the trouble in air, but if not it’ll at least buy you time until you have to brave that near impossible feat. Oh and don’t forget to go yourself! There’s nothing like having to leave all of your children unattended for you to have to use the restroom in the middle of a flight. Many strangers are usually more than willing to take over for a few minutes…but I always hate having to leave my kids at all.
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  13. Noise Canceling Headphones: If traveling with a baby that will most likely be sleeping buy noise canceling headphones. Those announcements are unbelievably loud and oh so annoying and will never, ever, ever come at a convenient time so find a way to get rid of it! With older kids headphones in general will help with tuning everything else out and letting them get into their game or movie….which totally helps again with making the time go by faster for them.
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  14. Noisemakers: Don’t leave home without them!: We take our noisemakers everywhere. They help to cancel out any noises in the hotel rooms, apartments, or houses where you are staying. Our favorite is this one…it also has the option to run off of a battery which means if your child falls asleep on the plane and you don’t have noise canceling headphones this might help drown out any unwanted sounds. Whenever we have accidentally left ours at home you can bet that is the first thing we pick up once we get there!
  15. Dress Your Kids Cute For the Flight: I hate to say it but if your kids look cute and everyone is ooohing and ahhhhing over how adorable they all look the more likely people are to be supportive should one become upset. I usually have mine all in matching clothes anyway because it’s easier for me (and other people) to spot them should one wander off. But it didn’t take me long to realize that people responded differently to us when they all looked put together and cute, rather than disheveled and out of control. Hey, I’ll take whatever empathy I can get when traveling with five kids! 🙂
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  16. Take Off & Landing: When you have a baby the best thing is to nurse or bottle feed to help with their ears and the pressure. I’ve also used pacifiers too, which also worked well. But if your baby is already asleep then most likely you won’t have a problem. If you have older kids (meaning age 3 or older) I would highly recommend teaching them how to chew gum! I know that may seem young and I’ll probably get some backlash about how they’re too little for gum, but if you really take the time to teach them and make sure they know how to chew it and then spit it out it really can be a lifesaver when flying. Pick up a few flavors your kids will like and then offer it if their ears begin to hurt. It also makes them happy to get to pick out a new flavor, which is really helpful when you’re nearing the end of a long fight.
  17. Get Over The Germs: There’s just no way around it. If you’re a germ-a-phobe then most likely the entire airport and flight will be a near panic attack for you…but pack a travel size of Clorox wipes and a few bottles of sanitizer and you’ll be just fine. It’s all part of traveling.
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  18. Buy Multi-Use Cords: If traveling with more than one child a splitter cord comes in super handy. Buy separate ear phones for each kiddo but one connector so that both (or more) can watch the same movie. The one we have is HERE.
  19. Family Line: Some airports have a separate family line for security. If you’re not sure just as a TSA worker. Sometimes they don’t use signs to advertise for it even though they do exist.
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  20. Carry-ons: If traveling with a baby pack extra clothes for child and you. Buy a package of plain cheap onesies just in case there is a poo blow out. That way you won’t feel bad at all for just tossing it into the trash. 🙂  With toddlers throw in an extra pair of shorts/pants and a shirt. Other things I like to put in my carryon–extra diapers, snacks, books, blanket for airport floor (when traveling with a baby or a crawler), grocery bag or small trash bags for anything gross, toothbrush, medicine, sippy cups (bring empty if possible to avoid the longer wait and extra checks in security and then fill on the plane), earphones, games, toys, art projects, and my laptop (for movies). Slightly older children (even my 3 year old can) are able to carry their own backpacks. Let them help you pack the bags and let them carry their own stuff.
  21. Think Through Shoes: Try to not put shoes on your baby…even though lil baby shoes are adorable chances are you’ll only end up with one (or less) by the time you arrive wherever you’re going. For toddlers put them in slip ons that can easily be taken off and on for the flight. Most likely kids will be more comfortable without them so plan to just shove their shoes under the seat in front and let them settle in. Think through what shoes you’ll wear too. Most airports do not have kids take off their shoes through security but you will have to. If you’re trying to round up your toddlers you’re not going to want to untie boots or shoes…choose something that is really easy to get on and off that doesn’t require much effort or time.
  22. Don’t Use The Water On The Plane: Apparently the water on the plane has some sort of chemicals in it that will make you sick if you drink it. I don’t actually  know if this is a fact or not, but I was told this long ago and have believed it ever since. Always ask for bottled water to fill bottles or to drink. Don’t wash your kids pacifiers or cups in it either!
  23. Diaper Bag: I usually carry on a large diaper bag and my purse. If you don’t have a huge diaper bag I would highly recommend a backpack instead. Not only can you fit more in it but having the ability to put it on both shoulders will help as you move through the tight spaces on a plane.
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  24. Layovers: I hate layovers. Personally I would rather take a very long flight rather than stop and wait and get on another. I like the one and done feeling. But, I will say that if you know your child will need time to get off of a plane and walk around, take a break and then get on again then make sure you have a long layover. Anything less than 40-45 minutes is not enough. By the time you get off, get your stroller, find a snack it’ll already be time to board again. Plan extra time to wander around, let your kids run in the terminal to get out some energy, explore new airports, use the bathroom, and get some food. Then you’ll be ready for another round.
  25. Boarding: If you have a seat assignment then I would recommend boarding last. The shorter amount of time you have on the plane is the best. Let your little one run or crawl around to get out as much energy as possible before having to sit still for however many hours on the flight. If you don’t have a seat assignment (ex: traveling with Southwest) then I would highly recommend setting a timer the day before to check in for your boarding pass as fast as it becomes available. If you get an early boarding pass then you’ll have first pick on the plane for which seats you want. If you don’t get good boarding passes then just know that people with children will always board after the A class is on….which usually works out really well too. Oh, and if you are taking your stroller and carseat make SURE to stop by the ticket counter to pick up a tag to put on those bigger items. You’ll also want to put the address labels on them too….just in case they get lost.
  26. Extra Blankets: Whether you are traveling with a baby or toddlers (or both) having extra blankets on hand is a must. Sometimes the planes are cold and sometimes your little one will just want to cuddle up and rest. Nothing is worse than being stuck on a plane with kids that are freezing and there’s nothing you can do about it.
  27. Ask For An Extra Seat: This one is a must!!! Always always ask the flight attendants if the plane is full. If not, let them know you are traveling with a child, or many children, and make sure to ask as sweetly as you can if you could be in a row with extra seats. We have had many flight attendants radio to the back of the plane to have them help us find a row or couple of rows that we can spread out in.  They’ll work with us to make sure they stay open for us as the remainder of the people board too. 🙂
  28. Grab The Window Seat: If traveling with your baby or toddler I would highly recommend the window and middle seats. If your kiddo gets upset it’s much easier to turn your back to the evil stares and try as best you can to block it out. Also, kids LOVE looking out the windows to see the ground and the clouds. In my opinion it is far more worth it to have to crawl over someone for a potty break and still get the window seat than to be on an isle the whole time.one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS
  29. Movies: Most movies nowadays have the ability to be uploaded onto your smart phone or computer. Set up a stash, maybe with some new ones they haven’t seen before or stick with some all time favorites, on your devices to use on the flight.
  30. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help:  There have been a number of times when I have traveled without my kids that I have seen a mom or two struggling with their child. Although I would be ecstatic to jump in to help, I never know whether or not to, so I most often just wait to see if they ask. I am confident that if I think that way, most people would too. Sometimes all it takes you being willing to ask and accept help and others will more than likely jump to the opportunity. Look for a potential grandma or someone that you might think has had kids and would understand what you’re going through. Whether it be airport staff, security, flight attendants, or the person sitting next to you…don’t be scared to raise your hand.
  31. Stay Positive: If you dread traveling with your kids, then it’ll be obvious to not only your children, but to everyone else around you. If you have a lightheartedness about it then others will pick up on that as well. Don’t stress the small stuff. Things WILL go wrong and when they do just find the fastest and easiest way to remedy it. Let your kids know what’s coming and what you expect, but be sure to enjoy the process too. One day you’ll be able to laugh at some of the stories and inconveniences that end up happening!
    one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS

Donuts or Doughnuts…

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

one glass slipper|meg wallace|flying with KIDS

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day

meg wallace|one glass slipper|family donut day


Our family LOVES donuts….or doughnuts…or little fried sugary bits of heaven. I believe we are borderline donut snobs now if I’m honest. We have been to some amazingly incredible out-of-this-world donut shops and now the normal run-of-the-mill is never quite enough. I mean…don’t get me wrong…if it’s between run-of-the-mill and nothing I would still take run-of-the-mill…but once you’ve tasted amazing donuts, then it’s kind of hard not to compare.

We used to go every single Saturday for a family donut outing…and if you’re wondering how on God’s green earth I am able to eat donuts every week and still have anything to do with fitness, then my secret is because I used to save all of my cheat meals for Saturdays!!! Just so I could eat a donut! It got a little out of hand, though, so we had to put a stop to it. I nixed donut Saturdays for awhile and we all stayed home to eat protein pancakes with a side of egg whites…but then we went to this particular donut shop called Top Pots and now donuts are all I can think about…my stomach is growling…the struggle is real people….

p.s.Did you notice in the pics how every kid eats their donut a different way? The princess eats only the icing….Bear eats the whole top from the table…and then goes around to all of the other kids and cuddles up to them only to steal licks from their icing…these kids CRACK me up!

 

Lovishly

 

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Lovishly giveaway

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Lovishly giveaway

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Lovishly giveaway

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Lovishly giveaway

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Lovishly giveaway

one glass slipper|lovishly giveaway

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Lovishly giveaway


I am so excited to tell you about this company called Lovishly. My friend Sherry is the founder/owner and she created this company to sell jewelry for the sole purpose of giving back to the community. For each necklace that is purchased a percentage goes to a charity of choice. Their motto is to Love Lavishly and to Give Extravagantly….and I honestly don’t think I’ve ever seen a better company slogan…in fact I believe this might just be the perfect motto for life in general! 🙂

When I was looking through the catalog I was faced with the difficult decision of which one to pick. Each necklace tells a story. Each one has it’s own meaning. Each one gives to it’s specific charity. It was difficult to narrow down which one was most fitting for me in this season I am in right now.

I finally landed on this one…Be Free. The purchase of this particular necklace goes to an organization called “Wipe Every Tear.” Wipe Every Tear helps facilitate women who live in the Philippines transition from the sex trade to a new life of freedom. For more information on them click HERE.

I chose it because, on a personal level, I feel more free than ever to really live how I feel I was created to live. We are in a season of freedom in so many areas of our lives and I am reminded of that every day I wear this necklace. I am free to love, free to be me, free to fail, free to repent, free to give, free to succeed, free to speak truth, free to decide, free to stand up for myself, free to stay silent, free to worship, free to say no, free to say yes, free to live…

Lovishly believes that together we can make a difference in the world. And I believe that will happen one life at a time. Lives are truly impacted with this company, my own included. And I love that fashion has become a way for us all to not only to express ourselves but more importantly the things we all care most about.

***Today I am giving away a free necklace exactly the same as mine. To enter in the drawing simply go to my Instagram page, like the photo of the necklace and leave a 2-3 word comment as to what it means for you to BE FREE. The winner will be chosen this evening at 9 pm. Pacific Time.

The Needle, Pikes Place…and the Break-in…

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break
meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break


This new park is by the famous Needle. It’s got climbing ropes that lead up to a super high slide…there’s so many places to crawl and climb and….fall. The kids had a blast, but I honestly think that might have been the closest I’ve ever come to having a panic attack! The weather was SO nice which meant everyone and their grandma was out that day. This playground reminded me of a bee hive….only with kids swarming! Thankfully no one fell and all had a great time. After the park we went to Pikes Place….


 

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

A man on the side of the street was playing and singing for money and he handed Canon the tambourine. Uh…I think he LOVED that!

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

Watching the fish being thrown while sitting on the golden pig!

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

Funny story…a man near us was watching me and was counting the children I had with me…but he didn’t notice that Canon and Matt were with me too. He offered to take a picture of me and my four children. But then when Matt leaned in to be in the photo too the man was offended because he thought Matt was totally photo bombing our pic! He had to re-take the pics because he was intentionally cutting Matt and Canon out of the first one! 🙂 And then we all had a good laugh about it and we got to hear how crazy we were for having FIVE kids instead of FOUR! 🙂

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

(loved this bathroom sign!)
I loved this bathroom sign!!!

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

We picked up some foods from our favorite spots and took them over to watch the sun go down on the water.

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

(Look at Crew’s face in that pic!!! hehehe! I think he must have just woken up!)

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

I love the way she looks at him.

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

This kiddo went bonkers for this cheese. After we all ate our snacks Matt and I split up and I took Crew and Canon to walk all the way back to Beechers to get him more of this cheese. He was delighted to say the least. He told the cashier it was just for him! Too bad that sweet moment ended fast…..

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

Canon and I were walking back to find Matt and the other kids. We were expecting him to pull up in the rental van to pick us up, but instead we heard Matt yelling for us….he and the other kids were running down the sidewalk and screaming to ask me if I had my wallet on me….I answered no but was so confused….until I found out we had been robbed…..

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

While we were off having a blast and living it up at Pikes Place…someone busted out our rental car window and thought it acceptable to steal my diaper bag. My Coach diaper bag! That bag was one of those gifts from a few years back that was birthday, anniversary and Mother’s Day combined. Boo…..And everything in it is gone too…which meant my wallet…with all of my insurance cards, cash, credit and debit cards…everything. Whoever did this also spent over $1,400 on my credit cards just before we called to cancel them too. We had to wait for a few hours on the side of the street until the police arrived to write up the report.

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

Thankfully one of the church volunteers came to pick me and the kids up to get us back to the apartment. It was a huge, huge bummer to the trip but I am so thankful none of us were hurt. It’s only “stuff” that can be replaced, right?!

meg wallace|one glass slipper|Seattle Spring Break

Tulip Festival

 

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

 

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

 

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

 

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle

meg wallace|one glass slipper|tulip festival|spring break in seattle


DRESS: Cotton On (sold out) similar HEREHEREHERE or HERE //  BOOTS: similar HEREHERE, or HERE  // SUNGLASSES:  similar HERE or HERE  //


There’s just something I feel is magical about the country and I just never can get enough of it. The tulip festival today was absolutely breathtaking and I wish I could go back again tomorrow…and the next day…and the next….

Whenever we are out as a family I’ll often ask if anyone would like to play with my camera. Of course that’s a scary idea….I love my camera and it would NOT be cheap to replace, but the outcome is worth the risk. I’ve taught them all, even the three year old, how to use it but I usually try to pick the child with the least sticky fingers. 🙂 Most of the time I don’t stage anything with them, I simply hang out and live how we normally would letting them capture what they wish. Truth be told I then have to go back through my camera and delete about 300 unusable photos…but what remains is sometimes the sweetest things.

You’d never be able to tell from these photos, but a huge disaster happened today. Yes, I have it all on my camera, but out of respect for my child I won’t use their name or share any of the pictures publicly. This particular individual wasn’t paying attention and accidentally walked ran straight into an entire pit of mud…mud so deep it was up to my child’s knees. Their shoes came off and stayed stuck in the thick gooey mud, and my child’s legs were covered.

Many people saw what had happened and did not hold back in their laughter. Of course, my child heard it all. Tears followed. As the bystanders walked away I held this sweet child’s face and said I would never leave, we’d figure it out together, and that I would be right there to help every step of the way. The aftermath took quite some time to clean up. We were far, far out in the fields without a hose, without wipes, with no change of clothes and nowhere near the farm house. All I had was my sweater to wipe off the mud.

There were more people who remained watching, with more laughter and more whispers behind our backs. We stuck together and went about our business trying to fix what had happened. I continued to reassure, continued to have my child listen to me rather than the ugly voices and continued to remind my child we were in this together. As the clean up continued and neared it’s end I heard a small quiet voice from my child….”I love you, mom.”

It was all I could do to hold back the tears. I knew in that moment he felt cared for, but it didn’t come without great effort. Here we were surrounded by such beauty, hoping to have an amazing day together, yet struggling in this trial of not only being incredibly dirty but being made fun of. This child didn’t leave my side the rest of the day. We held our dry muddy hands together as often as we could.

My child was clearly humiliated and beyond embarrassed…yet those moments were some of the sweetest of the day today. I hated for us both to have to go through that yet for some reason I wouldn’t trade it either. I want to truly “see” my children when they go through situations like this because they become some of the most meaningful and significant teaching/bonding moments as a mother.

More than good grades, more than athletic awards, more than all of the accolades they might ever receive I pray that my children will leave our home knowing what it means to “see” others, to be kind, and to love well. And I pray that in some small way I might play a tiny role in getting to model that for them. My hope is that they would see hurting kids and run to them rather than away from them. It’s always going to be the easy route to make fun or laugh at others. Joining in on what is mainstream will be the most comfortable thing to do. To go against the grain, show kindness, and draw near to the brokenhearted is sometimes the most courageous, unpopular, scary and messy thing to do. I pray that my children would learn to truly open their eyes to look for those who are struggling, to stick up for those who are being made fun of, and love well those who need encouragement or help.

We’ve all been there at one time or another, the one being mocked, teased or made fun of. Today was our day and I’m sure it won’t be the last. When it was all said and done I was able to talk through all of what had happened with my child and tried as best as I could to emphasize what that felt like for us to be on the receiving end of the poking fun. All it takes is one person, one set of eyes, all it takes is one to make the effort…and even the most crushed spirit can be saved. I am fairly confident that after today my kid will begin to see other kids in a new light….especially the ones who need some extra care and love.

Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

Seattle Spring Break Day 1&2

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meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016
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meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016

meg wallace| one glass slipper | seattle 2016


Horraaahhhh for Spring Break!!! We made it to Seattle! We were up until 1 am before a 5:30 am departure time the night before we left, and although Matt and I were exhausted we couldn’t have asked for a better travel day. ALL of the kids did amazingly well on the plane.  Especially Crew! He won the hearts of every flight attendant!

We are here in Seattle because Matt will be preaching the three services on Sunday at one of the churches here that supports our own church plant. We just adore the people and are so thankful to get the opportunity to be here with them.

We are staying in a newly refinished fully furnished apartment on the top floor of the church that is hosting us.  It is so perfect for our big family and the kids have had no trouble making themselves feel at home.  🙂  The church here has made every attempt to make us feel so special. There were welcome notes all over the apartment, snacks and gift cards to Trader Joes, toys and coloring supplies for the kids! Seriously, they are amazing.

We all got a good nights rest and had a slow first morning. We then got everyone ready and packed up some snacks and set out for the day. Our first stop was Cow Chip where we bought some chocolate chip cookies the size of our heads! We got them ‘to-go’ and drove over to the boat that leads to Bainbridge Island. The kids LOVED that we could drive right onto the boat! We went on the upper level to watch the waves and ate our huge cookies.  We couldn’t have asked for better weather so far.

When we got to Bainbridge we walked around the adorable shops and spent the majority of the afternoon at a kid’s museum. We pretty much had the place to ourselves…which was awesome because we kind of took over the place! Every child went in their own way to explore. I love, love, love getting to watch and see what each child is drawn to and what makes their little faces light up. I’m not the best at photography yet, but I have been loving learning how to figure out lighting and angles to best capture those sweet  little moments.

We’re all set for more adventures today! I’ll keep you all updated as the week goes on! Next up….tulip festival!!!

xoxo


DRESS: Target, similar HERE or HERE// SHOES: Chucks // JACKET: similar HERE or HERE or HERE// SUNGLASSES: similar HERE or HERE // CARRIER: Ergo