birthday scavenger hunt

Our Buddy turned six this past weekend. I can hardly believe it’s been six years since he was born. This boy, this sweet boy, shares a birthday with my late grandfather on my moms side AND my sister, so this has easily become one of my favorite days of the year.

A few hours after he was born, he was taken to the NICU, and I can remember like it was yesterday the tears streaming down my face as I watched his tiny body in the small glass box with wires coming out of every part of him. My family drove over 8 hours from Oklahoma to Albuquerque to come and be with us as we waited for his health to improve.

He came out of that NICU later that same day and I can remember fighting back tears of joy to not only know he was alright, but to be holding him safely in my arms. My sister, as she held him for the first time, sang, “You’re the Reason God Made Oklahoma” and to this day when I hear that song I think of how time seemed to stand still in that moment.

This child, this lively, spirited, full of energy child, with his adorable raspy voice, his extremely expressive facial movements, and his infatuation for costume wearing has us simultaneously on our toes and wrapped around his finger. So, of course, what better way to let him know how much he means to us than to go all out for his special day.

He had no idea what we were planning, only that something big was coming his way. I told him yesterday evening that today, after he had gotten dressed and eaten breakfast, I would give him a letter…what he didn’t know is that the letter would lead to another, and another and that it keep going in a series of clues taking him hunting all over our neighborhood!

The final note came with a gift (some goggles) and told him to pack up his things and to get ready for a day of fun because we would be going to the Great Wolf Lodge for the night! I’m sitting here now in our dark hotel room, with our happily exhausted kids all asleep, editing the fun pics from the morning and I just couldn’t help but share them with you all! It was the perfect day, with water slides, wave pools, pizza for dinner, a dance party, story time, movie night and presents! He kept repeating over and over again how much fun he was having and the smiles on his face were priceless.

These days of motherhood are numbered, and I feel it constantly slipping through my fingers. I long to savor these moments and wish so badly I could bottle them up forever. I love getting to celebrate my kids…because Lord knows, they are worth celebrating!

Here’s the scavenger hunt in it’s entirety. And if you are in any way motivated to do your own for your little one someday please feel free to copy any of mine that you should desire…and be sure to read the tips at the end for more help!

The first letter:

 

Happy 6th Birthday Buddy! I’m so proud of you! Today we’ve got something 
special to do! You’ll have to think hard to figure it out, but I know you
can do it so be sure to not pout. We’ve planned a surprise for our whole
family to do, and we cannot wait to celebrate you! We are taking a trip,
what an adventure it will be!!! There will be so much to do and so much
to see! This day will start with this little scavenger hunt, so put your
thinking cap on and be sure to lead out in front. You’ll figure it out by
reading each clue and then go to the next spot the words lead you to. If
you’re ready to go then go kiss your dad and your mom, grab your brothers
and sister and say “come on!”

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birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

After the intro letter I gave him his first official clue, but not before him insisting he put on his special ninja turtle thinking cap!

Mom and Dad spend so much time in this place each day. We make nuggets,
and waffles,and smoothies for you to see a smile on your face. Your
first clue is where we all like to cook, I’ve put the letter inside of
a big black book…

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birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

I purposely made the first clue a super simple one so he would really get into it. And it worked! His face lit up and he couldn’t wait to read the next one!

You did it! You found it! You’re first clue is done! I hope you’re
catching on now so lets keep having fun! Your next clue is somewhere
very easy to guess because you spend so much time there whenever you
rest. You probably didn’t know it was there all night long, but your
next clue is where your head rests when I sing nighttime songs…

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

 
You’re on a roll now Canon, you got this one too! But now this next
one is tougher so go get on your shoes! You’ll have to search low
and you’ll have to search high and you’ll have to be sure to go run
outside. This next clue is over where you climb and you flip, there’s
stairs, a few slides and tons of wood chips…

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birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt
birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

Yipppeeee! You made it, you’re doing so great! Let’s be sure to
keep going so that we don’t show up late! This next spot is not
open yet so you’ll have to use your arm that is slim. to reach
through through the black gate surrounding the place where we swim…

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birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

Congratulations Canon! You’re so good at this!!!! I can’t wait
till you finish so I can give you a big kiss! Your next clue is
far, so be sure to think through how to get there and what you
will need to do. You’ need a gate pass, a car, and some keys,
and go ask your mom to drive you please. You’ll have to tell her
where you need to be is where boats like to park and where ducks
like to feed…

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birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be
tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues,
they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t
finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get.
This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is
where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by,
where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh wow, big boy! You’re so smart I see! You found it again and have
so impressed me! Go back up the stairs and head back to the car.
You’ll tell your mom she needs to drive you far. You’ll head to the
place you like to jump in, the spot is near where you first learned
to swim. There’s a park that you play at near there with a slide on
top and you’ll have to crawl up high to find the very right spot…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Woo Hooo sweet boy, you’re on a roll! You’ve got madd skills at
hunting and meeting your goal! Jump back in the car and head to
the place where you play and blow bubbles out of your face. There’s
grass and a tree and a table there too, it’s a spot that’s very
familiar to you. Underneath the cover where daddy likes to grill
food is a basket with stuff in it which is where you’ll find your
next clue.

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

Oh my goodness Canon, you’ve done so well! I’m so proud of you and
my heart just swells! This next clue is surely your last one to find,
after that you'll discover the surprise we have in mind. You’ll need
to look in a spot in the house, where we store bikes and scooters and
where we caught a mouse. There will be a green suitcase that has your
name on it, you’ll have to see what’s inside so be sure to unzip…

Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

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Oh my goodness Canon you’re doing amazing! I thought this might be tough, but instead you’re just blazing! Right through all these clues, they’ve got nothing on you! You’ve made it this far and we aren’t finished yet, so keep going strong and hunt for that next clue to get. This next spot is down some stairs you see, near a gazebo that is where you be. The stairs are white and on a small island close by, where the ducks like to sit and watch the boats go by…

You did it! You’re finished! You’ve completed them all! I love you
so much and this surprise is not small! You’ll need to pack up and
be sure to bring your things! Take your swim suit and goggles and
let’s start to sing! 
We’re going to have sooooo much fun you know, bring your blanket,
your pillow and some toys to throw. Make absolute certain you don’t
forget Rex because we’ll be staying the night at the place we go next! 
This place is somewhere we’ve never been but it’s going to be amazing
and will make you grin! 
Here is a hint for you to see if you can guess, you’re the greatest
little six year old you deserve the best! 
There are slides and water with so much to do and all we want is to
celebrate YOU!!! We are ready to go, let’s hurry and play! We love you
SO much Buddy and Happy Birthday!!!!

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

birthday boy and scavenger hunt | meg marie wallace | how to make a scavenger hunt

 

That shocked look on his face and the super tight hug was just the absolute best! I’ll post more from our time at the Great Wolf Lodge tomorrow, but here’s some tips for writing your own scavenger hunt!

8 tips to writing a scavenger hunt

  1. Locations: Begin with the locations. Make a list and write out the spots you’d like to hide the letters. Try to think of the hunt as a huge circle with it ending at the same location it began in.
  2. Introduction Letter: Write out the introduction letter explaining to your kiddo what is happening.
  3. First Clue: Make your first clue in a separate letter (it’s easier to keep track of that way) and make it a very easy note to help him find his first clue (that way he won’t get discouraged right off the bat.)
  4. Poetic Rhyming: Write the words you would want to communicate first without the rhyming. That way you can get the sentences in the correct order to help guide him to the right spot. Then go back and change up the last words of those sentences to make them rhyme. Sometimes it means changing out the entire sentence to make a way for it to work, but just keep it simple.
  5. Use a Thesaurus: I pulled up a thesaurus on my computer and just typed in words that I thought could work, then rebuilt the sentences based off of the ideas that came up online.
  6. Assign A Helper: Have other kids help if your child doesn’t read really fast. They’ll be so excited that it might become frustrating if they can’t get the info as fast as they want. For us, the birthday boy just picked different helpers for each clue.
  7. Running Shoes: I wish I’d worn some! He was so fast and I should not have been wearing that dress! I wish I had on my workout gear to be able to keep up with him!
  8. Prize: The prize at the end could be a goody bag or their birthday present. You could do this for Easter baskets or Valentines Day presents…or one idea I had was to have a hunt like this on the last day of school with water guns waiting at the end to celebrate summer. The possibilities are endless!

 

 

easter 2017

[vc_row][vc_column][vcfastgallery_mosaic fg_gallery_name_show=”true” fgm_layout=”fg_layout3″ fg_type=”lightgallery” fgm_height=”500″ fgm_allow=”true” fg_responsive=”fg_mosaic” fg_over_image=”fg_over_image_off” fg_main_color=”#ffffff” fg_secondary_color=”#ffffff” fg_spacing_active=”on” fgm_padding=”10″ fg_gallery_name_font_color=”#c47923″ fgm_image_lightbox_size=”large” fg_seo=”on” fg_gallery_name=”Easter 2017″ images=”7848,7862,7849,7855,7867,7874,7871,7876,7882,7850,7884,7914,7905,7911,7918,7921,7937,7952,7948,7994,8002,7995,8001,7999,7996,7998,8000″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_separator color=”custom” accent_color=”#b7884b”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]A few days before Easter I and I kids got together with some friends to dye eggs in the park together. Crew hadn’t been feeling well so he stayed back to take a nap while Matt worked from home. We made sure to save him some that he could dye when he felt better.

I love getting to watch the kids try to figure out how long to leave the eggs in to get certain colors and how to get the wax crayons to show up. 🙂  And this year we had the tie dye maker to put a new spin (pun intended) on things.

On Good Friday I began telling the kids all about the week leading up to and the day Jesus was crucified. I used the version in Matthew and went along as the story goes, but told it as more of an oral story rather than just reading it word for word. It sucked them in, to say the least, and the kids asked about a million questions. “But did Jesus know that Judas would betray him?” “What does betray mean again?” “Did Jesus know he was going to die?” “Why didn’t he just let Peter cut that guys ear off?” “I thought buried meant in the ground. Does it still count if he was in a tomb?” “Does Jesus have a body now?” “Wait, so he still has scars?”

I intentionally ended the story on Friday night at Jesus’s death knowing that I’d get to tell them the rest of the story again on Sunday morning. We spent the morning making breakfast together and talking through why we truly celebrate Easter. Of course there were more questions, “So, who moved away the stone again?” “Were those angels as bright as a glow stick?” “Do you think those two women tripped on anything when they ran to tell everyone?” “So, how did Jesus get back to Heaven after he came back to life on Earth?”

I love ALL of the playful things about Easter like dying eggs and surprises in their Easter baskets and I love bunnies, flowers, donuts, and all things pastel….but what I love most is their questions. I love getting to teach my little family about Jesus.

Although it’s super easy with Easter being the “Super Bowl” of Christianity I don’t ever want that to be the only time they hear me talk about Jesus conquering sin and death. I want our conversations to be just as intentional all year long as the seasons and days come and go.

I have to say, though, that there’s one time I do not prefer to talk endlessly about Jesus and it’s just before I am about to walk out of the room after the entire bedtime routine has been completed….it is a bit difficult to discern the true sincerity when such deeply rooted theological questions come that late at night. 🙂

Our little church plant is coming along slowly. There are many ups and downs with planting a church and although I’ve heard people say that many, many times I would also say that I didn’t really get it until now. By design it’s not fast moving and we are still in the core group phase which means our location can shift easily. Since last fall we have been renting some space from a more established church for services on Sunday afternoons, but have recently decided to go back to meeting in a home for a short season of intentional training prior to our official launch.

Sometimes I miss things about being part of a really large church, but at the same time I also love the more intimate setting of church being in a home, especially on Easter, to be able to really simplify the production it can sometimes become.  We love the freedom at this stage of planting to be able to share a meal together and let the kids all play while the adults get to spend time talking with one another. It has been one of my favorite parts of starting this church.

Easter this year could be described as simple and sweet. We had the best day. I cannot even begin to fathom how much sugar my kids inhaled, but no one threw up so I consider it a success! Happy (belated) Easter everyone![/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

a biblical approach to spanking in 8 steps

a biblical approach to spanking | meg marie wallace

 

Whoa…..this is a touchy subject, isn’t it?! I know that as I sit down to write this post that there will be many who disagree with me on whether or not spanking is even appropriate at all. Although there is much to say about that this post in particular isn’t intended to raise a debate, rather, this post is simply to give some direction and guidelines for those who do see it as a God given responsibility in parenting.

Let me begin with this…regardless of the exact method or process, parents are to be responsible and self-controlled in ALL situations regarding spanking at ALL times. There is no room whatsoever, under any circumstances for physical abuse of any kind. The biblical approach I am describing is balanced, reasonable, intentional and controlled.

I’d like to stress that spanking is not the primary focus on getting our children to obey; training is. I’ve written articles in the past to show how repetitive, intentional teaching and training will often prevent the need to discipline…however, this method is for when a child clearly understands an expectation or command and fails to respond appropriately.

I believe with all of my heart that spanking in a way that honors Jesus and obeys the guidelines in Scripture will not only modify attitudes, improve behavior and strengthen the relationship between parent and child, but it will also point our children to the grace they receive from Jesus who has paid the ultimate penalty for all sin.

Seem impossible??? I’m here to help…

Eight Steps

My first word of advice is to not freak out, be surprised, or get overly emotional when you realize your sweet little baby has a will of her own. Don’t panic about having to use action to enforce discipline. I know from experience how much second-guessing a parent can do. The key here is to have a plan that both parents can generally agree on and to see the end from the beginning. Our aim as parents is to raise responsible, God glorifying children that can handle authority (being in it and under it) in a way that is honorable.

1. a clear warning

Training should never be separated from discipline. If adequate training has occurred then the child should first be given a clear warning to remember what has already been taught. A child should never be caught off guard by discipline. It should always be preceded by a clear warning. This gives you as the parent an opportunity to speak clearly to make sure you are giving him the option to deliberately disobey or wisdom to see if your child is simply making a mistake. If you are training correctly, this initial warning will allow you to stay calm and only correct intentional disobedience.

Ex 1: Son, I have asked you to find your shoes, put them on, and stand by the door. You are
playing with your trucks. Do you remember when I taught you how to get ready to leave the
house? Is what you're doing obedient or disobedient?

Ex 2: Sweetheart, you are not speaking with a kind tone. Do you remember how I have taught you to speak to others?

Ex 3: Son, when we walk through a store is it appropriate for you run ahead? Do you remember
how I've taught you to walk beside me?

Take notice that the reminder is for things that the child has clearly already been taught. Once again, training here is crucial. If a child does not know what to do and the expectations are not clear then discipline should not occur.

The enforcement of discipline comes only after a gentle reminder has not been heeded. The consequence of spanking, or using physical correction is only appropriate in cases of clear disobedience.

Know this, my beloved brother: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger, for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Jame 1:19

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2. responsibility taken

It is important for your child to take responsibility for his behavior. Asking, “Why did you do that?” is not a good question. Theologically speaking it’s a no-brainer kind of question — your child is a sinner with a predisposition to disobedience, which he inherited from you and every other generation all the way back to our first parents in the Garden. The Bible is clear as to why we respond with fits and rage, it’s when we want what we want and we do not get it. Helping a child see that what they want is not always what is best is the better route to go.

Here’s a better way to go about it:

"Son, what did Mom ask you to do?" Go get my shoes and put them on and wait by the door.

"Did you choose to obey or disobey?" Disobey.

"What did you choose to do instead?" Play with my trucks.

"Do you understand why mom would ask you to get your shoes and wait by the door?" Yes, we are leaving.

"Does your disobedience affect just you or does it affect everyone in the house?" Everyone.

"Son, sometimes choosing what you want is not what's best. Mom gave you a clear command and instead of obeying you chose to think only of yourself."

 

With this kind of conversation, you are calm, controlled, and not trying to punish. Rather you are trying to help your child see beyond himself. You are trying to teach and to instruct. You are teaching responsibility and how to take ownership of his actions. This prepares him to begin to look beyond himself and helps him toward the end goal of becoming a responsible adult.

Remember to always keep your focus on the child’s behavior, not his identity. Affirmation of how much he is loved and how much you care for him is absolutely necessary. As the parent you can grieve with him over his poor choice in behavior. But at the same time you cannot allow his actions to go unnoticed. It would not be loving to allow your child to think that even though he is greatly loved he is allowed to act according to his own will. You want him to understand that the act was wrong and he needs to take responsibility for it, but that you have already forgiven him, as has Jesus.

What causes quarrels and fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? James 4:1

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3. avoid embarrassment

Always try to find a private place to discipline your child. Correction with only words can be whispered in their ear. But never embarrass your children in front of their family, friends, or strangers. Don’t pull them harshly out of the target shopping cart, or make a scene getting him out of the booth at a restaurant. Don’t speak in a tone where everyone around can hear you, and don’t do anything else that will make your children feel as though others are watching them. All that accomplishes is shame and embarassment and it will be one of the fastest ways to break connection with your child.

Instead, make every effort to go to a private place. At home, that can be the bedroom or bathroom. In public, it can be the restroom, behind a building, or in the car.  Unnecessary embarrassment can do a lot of damage that you’ll have a hard time undoing later on. Please note: if there is no place for you to discipline publicly then it is better to avoid discipline altogether. Simply make a note to either address it privately at home (which is okay for slightly older children) or remember to reenact the same scene in a training session at home in order to still teach the concept/action again.

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4

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4. communicate grief

I want my children to know that more than being angry, I’m disappointed and heartbroken when they disobey. To see our children harden their hearts against the ones who love them most is a sad thing. To express and communicate our sadness in however simple ways we are able that our children can understand is necessary to let them know we are fighting WITH them not against them. When trust has been violated, our kids need to know that the relationship is wounded. There have been times that tears have rolled down my face when their actions have revealed the sin in their hearts. When kids see the grief of their parents, they’ll understand a slight glimpse of how their sin affects God. They’ll understand that God isn’t waiting with a bat to come at them every time we make a mistake, rather he sees us with eyes of compassion. He grieves over our sin and the consequences it brings. Our role as a loving parent is to be a tangible refection of how Jesus himself would respond when witnessing the destructive nature of disobedience.

Ex 1: "Son, I love you dearly, but I love you too much to let you disobey. You have been given one command in the bible and it comes with a promise. You are to obey your parents that life would go well for you."

Ex 2: "Son, I know that this isn't fun, but I hurt for you and with you. This isn't what God intended for you and this isn't what I want for you either. I want you to learn and to grow and I want you to trust that what I ask of you if for your good...not to harm you. It's my job to teach and train you and when you refuse to learn I have to follow through. I love you too much to let you take a path of destruction."
And he looked around at them with anger, grieved at their hardness of heart, and said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He stretched it out, and his hand was restored. Mark 3:5

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5. it’s all in the wrist

This is super practical, but also (hopefully) super helpful to relieve some of the doubting and second guessing in what to do with the actual spa king part. The point of spanking is to reenforce the truth you are teaching with a sting to provide a painful deterrent to not repeat the action again. Spanking is never to injure, scare or cause harm.

The “rod of discipline” as the Bible refers, should never be violent. Although there are no specifics on how hard a spanking should be there’s certainly no reason whatsoever to assume that it’s talking about a brutal form of punishment. A parent who is clearly angry, lacks self control, and swings hard without restriction is in sin. That type of spanking is not out of a heart that is obedient to the Lord, rather it lacks love and has no concern for the good of the child. That form of discipline is unbiblical, sinful and wrong.

 Once you have gone to a private place, speak with them first on your lap and then let them know exactly what is going to happen. Then turn them over and hold them close and spank on their buttocks or thigh. With older/larger children have them place their hands on the door or the side of the bed and lean over slightly.

When you spank, use a wooden spoon, a ping pong paddle, a hand, a small strip of leather or some other appropri­ately sized object and flick your wrist. A few flicks of the wrist on the fatty part of the thigh or directly on the soft tissue of the buttocks will not cause damage to their bodies. The desire is for a firm sting to occur, and that’s all that is necessary.

It ought to hurt, which is suuuuuper difficult for us mothers to accept, and it’s okay if it results in a few tears. If it doesn’t hurt, it isn’t really discipline because there is nothing to really “mark” the memory of the child. And ultimately it isn’t very loving because it will not be effective.

For young kids I have typically given the number of flicks for the number of years old. My two year old gets 2 flicks, my 8 year old gets 8 flicks.

As children get older into the preteen years, spanking becomes less effective and less necessary. We are moving now into the lost-privilege approach, however we do hold spanking as a last option. Making sure to be diligent and consistent with proper discipline earlier in their lives makes spankings become less and less necessary as they get older.

A man without selfcontrol is like a city broken into and left without walls. Proverbs 25:28

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6. sincere repentance

When kids are small, let them sit on your lap after a spanking and cry for a while. Hold them close, let them know you’re near and that you love them. Then after a few minutes, ask, “Are you ready to make things right now? Are you ready to talk about this with me (or whoever the wrong was against) and with God?”

At this point you will either see a soft, tender heart that is broken in repentance…or you will see anger and a growing disdain. If you see softness then keep going with the next steps. If you see increased hardening, a child attempting to hit at you, or any remaining anger then ask your child, “Are you going to continue to harden your heart to me and God? I am going to have to repeat that process again if you remain angry. Please know I love you and want good for you, but you must soften.” You don’t delay on this and you don’t give warning after warning. If the child remains hardened go right back into the flick process and give another set of spankings (meaning however many flicks per year of age). Then repeat the steps above and ask they child if they are ready to soften. If still angry you’ll repeat in a controlled and loving manner as many times as is necessary for you child to soften. Again, this is not at all an excuse to harden. As a mom who has done this many, many times I can honestly say that the longer my child remains hardened the more broken I become. After a third or fourth round I can feel the lump in my throat growing and before long the tears are streaming down my face. I become so soft (yet still remaining firm in my actions to complete this job) that my words are often only a whisper. “Please son, do not remain hardened. Please soften. This isn’t what’s best for you. Are you ready now?”

When I receive a nod, or a sinking into my body, when there is any sign of the will being broken, at any point I can tell repentance and genuine sorrow has occurred…I hold them close and let them know how much I love them.

Once a calmness is restored I will again revisit the issue and ask them, “How did we get here, what went wrong out there? What was it mommy asked you to do and what could you have done differently?” I want to help them clearly relate the discipline to the behavior.

Then I would ask, “With whom do you need to make things right?” Often they would realize they needed to make things right not just with me and with God, but also to apologize to a brother or sister. Then I’d take the opportunity to coach them in how to approach God, what to say, how to confess their sin, and how to receive forgiveness. I then ask if I can pray for them and over them that they would be quick to learn and that they would remember this time of discipline in the future.

Together we speak with God humbly and honestly as no other experience could allow. I am able to confess to God the times in my life I have responded to Him the same way my child has. I can share a story with my child of a time when I too disobeyed like they did. Becoming a parent doesn’t mean I am perfect. Sharing my own brokenness with my children and pointing us both to Jesus allows them to see that I need grace just as much as they do.

Discipline done rightly with forgiveness and reconciliation is without a doubt one of the sweetest, most tender, most beautiful and most intimate parts of motherhood.

The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise. Psalm 51:17

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7. restoration

Knowing that Jesus has already paid the ultimate penalty allows me to freely forgive. Jesus has made him absolutely clean, and I need to see him that way as we move forward. There is no room for any resentment and I make no allowances for there to be any barrier between the two of us.

Using the rod in a way that honors God brings a unity and a bond between parent and child that goes beyond the actions that will keep a child from destruction. Loving them enough to take the time to be compassionate as a parent through discipline has a much deeper purpose than just getting a child to do as we wish.

To be restored to one another means to walk in unity once more. There is a warmness and smiles and tenderness once again. The goal before leaving our “private place” is to have smiles and hugs and joy with both of us knowing reconciliation has taken place.

All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation. 2 Corinthians 5:18

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8. act out correct behavior

I cannot say enough about this part and most parents I know skip it completely, but this is key to improving the obedience of your child. This step is absolutely critical, carries so much weight and I cannot stress the importance of it enough. If we are to truly train up our children in they way they should go then it is not just discipline that will get us there. Training, training, training and more training is required. Training is never to be separated from discipline.

After the discipline session is over and you and your child are restored, but the work is not yet complete. Have your child go back to the exact spot they were when the first disobedience occurred. Repeat the same command and the same instruction and give your child the opportunity to do what was right the first time. When your child follows through with the correct behavior celebrate with them emphatically and speak for just a moment about well they did, and how their obedience honors you and honors God.

For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11

 

consistency: 

Parents don’t grow weary in doing good. By disciplining in a way that honors God you may see immediate improvements in your home. Your family may have less chaos, more peace and more joy. Your children will respond immediately to you because they feel loved and cared for. More than likely there will be far less stress and the environment overall will be much more manageable and life giving….and that will be encouraging and most likely spur you on to keep going strong.

But some of you may not see improvement right away and I would encourage you to keep pressing on with the goal to honor the Lord in your role as a parent. Stay diligent in training first, be sure to continue communicating clear expectations, work hard to establish clear boundaries, and remain consistent with clear consequences. I promise the fruit of your labor will not be in vain so don’t ever give up. The seed you plant now will have a harvest, so keep planting good seed into the fertile hearts of your children.

And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

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why water is better than mascara

Mascara can do wonders for an exhausted, overworked momma…..but water…water can do more than brighten the eyes…

a word about dehydration

Friends. Moms. Women….here’s a question for you: do you find yourself often struggling with confusion, headaches, loss of strength, fatigue, and loss of ability to focus?!

If yes, then please keep reading…especially if you’re a mom!

You’re probably often saying that you would do anything for a nap…no doubt raising kids is exhausting. And sleep is most certainly a huge factor in our overall wellness, but we can’t overlook the importance of water. Water is absolutely critical to our well-being and our functionality throughout the day.

I know from experience that drinking (*what I would call a ridiculous amount of) water truly does do wonders for exhaustion. It’s the first thing I go for to get some help after those all nighters with my kids. Sure, I still want a nap, and some coffee, but dehydration has some pretty steep consequences…making normal daily tasks, exercising, and caring well for others extremely difficult to do.

What we look like truly is not the end goal in drinking more water…and although I include so many benefits in this post for the outward, that just isn’t the most important thing…at all. Our intentality as moms to drink more water could quite possibly have huge impacts in our homes, giving us more energy and more endurance to continue to serve those we love most.

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If you were to ask me if there was one key to unlock a healthy lifestyle, adequate hydration would be it. Drinking water not only affects our inward organs in some pretty amazing ways, but that results in huge impacts on our outward beauty too. I could literally write pages upon pages about the benefits of water, but for the sake of brevity I’m choosing to focus most specifically on the beauty aspect…because what mom wouldn’t mind not looking like a zombie? (um, me!)

I can guess what you’re already thinking….I know that not everyone enjoys drinking water…but maybe getting used to the idea of water helping us to slim down, give us mental clarity, and keep our faces looking less tired can be pretty useful in helping to keep us motivated to stay hydrated.

erasing fatigue and tiredness

When you lack energy and look tired all the time it will give you a very lethargic and indolent look. Dullness creeps all over you and makes you feel fatigued and down when you are dehydrated. Water will energize your body and will lubricate the joints and muscles. This will improve the skin around the eyes and stop them from drooping.

If you don’t like water, try green tea! It will help melt fatigue from your body and add form and texture to your muscles. You’ll be able to exercise longer and look healthier and more beautiful.

controlling weight gain

Don’t misunderstand me here…drinking more water will not necessarily make you lose weight. However, it can be helpful when it comes to controlling our appetites. Drinking lots of water, substituting water for other beverages with more calories, and the intake of water just before meals go a long way in taking unwanted pounds off.

Eating foods that contain a higher amount of water is another healthy way to lower caloric intake. Vegetables and fruits that contain water tend to be larger and take longer to chew…which means the rate of absorption is slower which helps make you feel full.

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skin rejuvenation

I don’t know about you but I can tell an immediate difference in my skin when I am dehydrated. My lips become chapped and my skin is itchy. Drinking water is the my absolute best advice to healthy glowing skin. Our skin will become clearer as toxins are expelled from the body.

There are some incredible skin moisturizing creams out there, but only the intake of more water that will give a lasting glow. It is a super cheap and highly accessible solution…start drinking ladies!!!!

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clearing under-eye dark circles

Dark under-eye circles can be due to aging, inadequate nutrition, lack of sleep or dehydration. Well balanced meals that include lots of vegetables, fruit and water is the best way to keep those circles away. If you are suffering from lack of sleep drinking more water will not only hydrate you but will also boost your energy levels and erase fatigue away from your eyes.

prevents acne from affecting your skin

I’m no expert here, but I can tell you from experience that people who battle with acne will definitely feel (and see) the difference in drinking adequate water on a regular basis. Often acne comes from drinking less and less water over long periods of time. Try adding either herbs or lemon for best results. Water helps to cleanse the body by ridding it of toxins. When those inward toxins are released outward skin eruptions lessen visibly.

If you know me at all you already know that water is my absolute favorite thing to drink. I really dislike strong flavored beverages of any kind so maybe it’s the simplicity of it or…maybe it’s because of all the research I’ve done through the years that help me to see it as a miracle worker..I’m not quite sure….but to me, there is nothing more satisfying to drink than water.

As I shared in my recent oils post, I LOVE to add 2 drops of Young Living lemon oil to my water each morning.

But I know for a fact that not everyone would say the same thing…I want to encourage you, though, to try to find new ways of making it more appealing to you. Drinking water shouldn’t be boring, painful or something you dread so try to come up with some creative ways to drink as much as you are able.

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8 ways to infuse water:

-lemon & herbal tea

-orange & blueberry

cucumber & mint

-strawberry & lime

-pineapple & orange

-strawberry & grape

-lime and lemon

-cranberry and lime

water bottles

My best advice is to keep a water bottle with you. Mine is constantly within reach no matter where I am. I typically have it on my kitchen counter, in my car or in my diaper bag. I have to say, though, that I’m picky about my water bottles. Very picky. It needs to be something that is durable but useful too. I researched for days and days to find my perfect water bottle and finally found ReHydrate.

I had a fairly long list of criteria that took me longer than I’d thought it would to track down. I was looking for something that was BPA free, that didn’t sweat at all (I hate that), was 25 oz or more ( so I didn’t have to refill it as often), was stainless steel (because I wanted to use my YL oils in it), had the option of colors that I desired (because, well, I’m love things like that), was in a decent price range, and had a straw (I tend to drink far more water with straws because I don’t waste time taking lids on and off and because it’s far easier to drink when I’m on a treadmill).

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I ordered mine here, but after I purchased mine I reached out to the company that made them as I couldn’t believe I’d never heard of their brand before. I told them that as far as I’m concerned they were creating the perfect water bottles and I wanted to do all I could to get their name out as much as I am able.

So, they sent me some free ones to give away to my readers!!!! How exciting is that?!?!

giveaway!!!

I have 3 bottles that will go to 3 individuals who are also willing to help get their name out there too. This will be a three step process:

  1. Share this post on Facebook
  2. “Like” and comment on my Instagram post featuring these water bottles
  3. And then come back to this blog post and comment “finished” to let me know you’ve entered and you’ve completed with step #1 and #2!

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how much to drink?

On average it’s recommended that we drink at least 8 glasses (of 8 oz) of water per day…but that’s the baseline! If you’re nursing, or pregnant, or running after toddlers, or playing soccer with your big kids you need to drink even more! Especially on days you are working out! Physical heat, physical activity, and humidity can also really take a toll on us too. Usually I recommend that you add on another glass of water for every 30 minutes you spend exercising. And if you’re nursing AND exercising?! Well, you should probably just get one of those water backpacks and have a constant drip going! 😉 Okay, fine I’m kidding..but really….

Drink water people!!! And lots of it!!! Love it like your new BFF!


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  PINK | LIME

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SQUARE HEART

 I completely forgot to post this outfit from a few months ago! I figured since it’s still taking a long time to warm up this spring that it isn’t too late to give some ideas for transition weather. On this particular day we took these pics I was taking my son to the bookstore. We loved getting to go in and see all of the books in person…and I even bought one that I’d been wanting to read for awhile. But later, when we got home, we looked up the prices on Amazon and found them to be quite a bit cheaper. How is it that book stores can stay in business anymore?!

My kids are really loving family reading time lately. We love to snuggle all up in the same room and read the same story together. We’ve been going through the Narnia series and just finished A Boy And His Horse. I wish they’d hurry up and make the movies out of all of those stories!

What other series of books do you all recommend? Or maybe not a series, maybe just a good family style book you’ve heard about or read?? I’d love to start a list going to be able to have a few to choose from.

This bomber jacket is super comfortable and really versatile. I love the army green color and how surprisingly warm it was. I paired it with a top from Walmart and some pants from Forever 21…because staples like a plain white shirt and plain black leggings shouldn’t have to cost a lot of money. I linked below some similar options but honestly I think I paid less than $10 for my leggings and the same for the shirt. I try to mix one really nice item with the rest generic/cheap. And these New Balance shoes are continually on repeat lately…I think they work with so many different styles and outfits.

This is spring break week for us so we are off to play at the beach and then off to soccer practice this evening. Did I tell you that Matt is coaching the boys this time?? It’s one of my favorite things to watch him with all of those little boys!

 

dear john

Dear John,

As we unloaded the car and packed our arms full with pool toys, towels, bags, sunscreen, and snacks and walked up toward the gate we noticed you. You were sitting alone in the hot tub with no one else on the property. Our kids ran past you and my husband offered our normal apology for our rowdy bunch and I overheard him as he told you he was sorry for interrupting your peace and quiet. I walked over to set down our things, but out of the corner of my eye I watched closely for your response to see if I could tell if you thought we were going to be a bother…which would help me gauge just how close of a watch I need to keep on my kids as they played and help me estimate just how many more apologies I should offer when (not if!) they get a little nutty.

I paused as I was opening up the sunscreen when I saw you smile and even heard you say that kids like that could never be an interruption to you…which was my first indicator that you were someone special. You see, most people your age don’t think that kids are a blessing anymore…and most older men I know don’t smile much anymore either. But I still wasn’t convinced you meant it, so I came over to say hello and see if I could crack some honesty out of you…

Instead of giving me the normal canned polite greeting, you asked about my little family and you asked in such a way that made me feel you truly cared. So I opened up a bit more than I normally do with people I’ve just met and told you that yes, my little “handful” is crazy at times but I love them dearly. I also shared that I’ve started homeschooling them this past year…which has proven to be far more challenging than I’d anticipated. You told me your wife used to be a reading specialist for young elementary kids and that she was brilliant with helping children learn to read. I mentioned that your wife is someone I’d love to speak with sometime and that I could really use the help from someone like her…

And then you told me what happened…you told me that you’d just had your year anniversary of her death and that you think of her and miss her every single day. I saw the tears start to flow and I took note of the fact that you weren’t at all embarrassed by them. You wiped them away and kept going…without reservation and without an ounce of pride in thinking you had to hold it together.

You didn’t know me at all but you boldly and emphatically shared with me your love for her, her love for  you, and both of your love for Jesus. You told me of her passion to honor Him with every day of her life. You told me how you met, and how God told you she was the one for you and how He told her that you were the one for her. You shared how you were married within 4 months time (which is insane by the way!) and how she made everyone in her life feel like she was her best friend.  I loved when you share how each morning she would wake up and ask the Lord to change her to be more and more like Jesus and how she’d constantly tell you that He never ever wanted us to remain static.

You told me of her steadfast faith through the years, her heart to disciple young women around her, her love for life in general and her encouragement to you in every aspect of your marriage. You told me that she was a gift to you for 42 years and that you couldn’t believe you had the honor of being hers for that long.

You then shared how you held her hand as you sat in that hospital office as she received her death sentence. You shared about her face and the joy-filled expression on it even after being told there were no options for her. You took her home knowing that the only plan was to try and celebrate what was left of her last 2-3 weeks. You told me how beautiful she was with masses of tumors that filled her belly that made her look 6 months pregnant and how she never once complained of the pain. You told me how her joy won over the hospice care workers that came to your home and how she has literally prayed for every single person she’s ever met all the way up until the very last day of her life.

You told me of your vision from the Lord a week or so before she died and how He told you in advance that you would be holding your sweet wife when she passed. You knew it was coming and you saw it happen just as He told you it would, your head in her lap as she took her final breath. I saw the innocent tears continue streaming down your face as you spoke so lovingly of her…yet I waited and watched to see if it came and it never did….the bitterness that is. I never saw one ounce of it.  Never once did I hear you waver in your faith and never once did I hear you speak poorly of her.

I’m sure she wasn’t a perfect woman and I’m wholeheartedly convinced that she was a sinner just like the rest of us…but you honored her with your every breath as I sat for hours to hear your story. I would have sat for 10 more just to hear more about her and your life. I loved hearing of the ministry opportunities the Lord has given you and how you truly believe you are nothing apart from Him. I loved hearing how your dad prayed for you before you were born and that it took 37 years before your dad’s prayer for you to truly chase after and love Jesus fully came to fruition. I’m so sorry that he died when you were only 11 as I cannot imagine what that must have been like for you. Yet, again, all I heard was thankfulness.

I loved hearing about your firefighting adventures and your trips all over the world building wells for people without water and starting churches in cities I’ve never heard of…but I especially loved when you said that firefighting is not your identity and that God simply used that as a miraculous way to bring people to Himself. I about lost it when you spoke of how your hope is to do all you can to “go out strong.” You don’t want to hold anything back, knowing your days are numbered, and when that day comes and you see Jesus’ face you want to know you have given it your all.

John, men like you are rare. And women like your wife are too. She truly sounds like a modern day Proverbs 31 woman and it would have been an honor to have met her. And you, you are the closest thing to meeting an angel I have ever experienced. You see, I don’t believe that things happen by chance. I believe I was meant to meet you today. I was meant to hear your story. I was meant to hear about your wife. She is an encouragement to me and one day I’m going to tell her how thankful I am for her living such a faithful, faith-filled life. And the encouragement you offered to me, to begin to pray every day how I might bring glory to Jesus is exactly what I needed to be reminded of. In this stage of life, with kids puking through the night, and confusion about where we ought to live, and the frustrations of planting a church…with mouths to feed, and grocery shopping to do and lesson plans to write out…sometimes it’s easy to forget the main things.

When it’s all said and done and I breathe my last I want more than anything for it to be said of me that “she loved the Lord with all her heart.” These things that can so easily entangle will all pass away…but thank you for the reminder today to keep first things first. I struggled to let you go home…wanting to continue to be encouraged by you and to hear of your love for Jesus and your love for others as long as I possibly could. Thank you for being a tangible picture of how Jesus cares for people. I see Him in you…you’re prayers are being answered…you’re becoming just like Him every day, John. You’re going out strong.

I want you to know that as I lay my head down tonight I’ll be thanking Jesus for you and for your wife. I’ll be praying for your upcoming trips, for your legs to not give out on you and that you’ll continue to see Him do far more than you could ever ask or imagine. Thank you for your time and most of all for opening up. Thank you for your joy and for your steadfast resolve to keep pursuing Jesus with all your might. I pray one day we will meet again. But until then, I’ll pray your wife’s favorite verse…because it just so happens to be mine as well… “may the God of all hope fill you with ALL joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.”

With all love,

Meg

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oils have radically changed our lives

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Bold statement. I know…

I may have rolled my eyes just a little bit at myself even as I typed it.

It’s one of those catchy phrases that people who do direct sales seemingly tend to overuse.

“I don’t just sell this product, I really truly believe it in.”

“This product has forever changed my life and I just can’t help but share it with you.”

“I just know that once you try it for yourself the product will sell itself.”

“Can I just send you a sample and then share with you about this incredible business opportunity?”

And that list could literally go on for miles.

Direct sales in many ways can be such a wonderful business opportunity…but those opportunities also walk the fine line of possibly becomming destructive in relationships as well.

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Some of my sweet friends in direct sales are actually still my sweet friends even though I haven’t “bought in” and I think that’s amazing. And there are so many that I am awe of as I see them handle their small businesses with such dignity and class.

However I have also experienced my fair share of people that absolutely have not handled themselves with such honor. I once had someone call me at least once a week for YEARS to ask me if I was interested in her makeup business. I met her toward the end of middle school and I was in COLLEGE by the time she finally took my “no” for a final answer.

Being “hit up” that often can get pretty annoying and it got to the point that not only was it a teasing opportunity for my family toward me, but I would literally let out a groan every time I would see her name on my phone. Sometimes I day dream about what could have been had I chosen to put a dollar aside for every time I was solicited for direct sales companies…and I’ll tell you this much…we would seriously not be struggling as much as we are in finding a house we could afford for our family of 7 out here in CA…

But here’s the thing…I have to be honest with myself and with you. I now use Young Living oils and truly do love them. Some of you have asked me about them and inside I immediately become a nervous wreck. I sheepishly stare at my feet and shuffle around and come up with some fluffy answer to redirect the conversation as soon as possible.

Why do I do that? Why am I afraid to share? What holds me back?

Well, put simply….although these oils truly have changed our lives for the better I’m terrified that my words about it will not just be lumped into the category of the worst kinds of direct sales people.

So, there it is…fear. I’m just a big huge scaredy cat.

There’s really no good reason to not be more open…so here goes…

I use Young Living Essential Oils and I love them.

There, okay, it’s out there now.

No, these oils are not life changing in the sense that they have fixed every ailment and every problem our family has faced since bringing them into our home….but they have most certainly changed our lives in many ways for the better.

From here on out I’m going to open up and share from time to time about what we use, why we use it and what I think. But please hear me on this…I’m not out to make a buck and it is not my life long dream to become a high ranking oil expert. As I learn more and become more familiar I’ll share my journey with you.

If you do happen to be interested in the oils themselves or joining up in this journey with me I’ll try my best to not shy away anymore. You will need to know right up front, though, that I don’t know much about oils at all yet. In fact, it’s still quite embarrassing how little I know compared to the gurus out there. So far I have only taken one simple intro class from a new sweet friend who saw my struggle with sales and offered to come sit in my home after the kids went to bed. She has never made a big show about it or talked me into me throwing some weird party.

I greatly respected her for that. She literally just had a desire to teach and help me. She calls every so often check in and to answer any questions I have and she has welcomed my texts asking which oil does what and how to combine different ones to help various problems. But because of her relaxed, non-pressure approach I have found myself less itchy to run away and more willing to linger and slowly ease into learning more. And I want to be like that.

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So how have these oils changed our lives?!  Here’s just a quick snap shot from the very beginning of my journey until now:

  1. I began using my first oil because I had a headache. A friend had given me Peppermint one night and I put it on my temples. My headache immediately went away. I thought it was interesting, but not interesting enough to explore anything more. (One simple cured headache was not enough to get me past my opposition to the sales barrier.)
  2. A few months later I noticed a sweet friend in another state had put a post up on facebook offering free samples to anybody that just wanted to try some. I responded to it and thought that since she wasn’t in it for the sales she’d be “safe” to me. But once I got them in the mail I literally just set them on my desk and forgot all about them…somewhat intentionally.
  3. A few more months went by and kiddo number 4 got really, really, really sick with some nasty, horrible, stomach bug, high fever, cold and flu junk. Poor thing threw up for 3 straight days like clockwork every hour on the hour. Matt was out of town and by evening on day #3 my son and I both were entirely exhausted.
    I knew I had to do something and I was left with the option of taking all five kids to the ER with me (what I consider to be the equivalent of hell on earth) OR try any desperate measure to get him better. I happened to glance over at my desk and saw those samples my friend had given me months earlier and thought it was worth a shot. I used coconut oil from my kitchen to dilute some Peppermint on his head, Theives and Frankincense on his feet, and some Digize on his tummy.
    He had been quarantined in my bedroom (so the other 4 wouldn’t get sick too) and since Matt was gone I had given him a little bell that he would ring whenever he was about to get sick again.
    I put those oils on him, left the bell by his side, and went down to start making dinner for the other kids.
    About 15 minutes later I heard the bell ringing loud and clear. I dropped my spatula and sprinted upstairs expecting to find him crying and throwing up again…but instead he was sitting up, his eyes actually making eye contact for the first time in 3 days. I immediately stopped and just stared at him for a moment and asked if he was okay.
    No joke, this is exactly what he said, “Oh ya, I’m fine mom. Hey, could you make me a grilled cheese?” “Ummmmmm……what was that buddy? Did you just say you want a grilled cheese?” “Ya, I’m really hungry now.” Blank face…..”Uhhhhhhhhhhhhh……….well……….of course I’ll make it but please keep that bell and that bucket right by you just in case.”  I made him a grilled cheese and wouldn’t you know he ate the entire thing. He then asked for apple sauce and some juice and within 5 minutes of finishing those he asked if he could go ride his scooter outside….which he did…and later slept the entire night through without one vomit sesh.
  4. A few days later, still somewhat in shock, I knew I needed to get past my stubbornness and try to learn more. If oils had that great of an impact in such a short time frame on such a sick child what was wrong with me that I wouldn’t try to help my kids like that more?! That’s when I called my friend who came to my house to teach me. I purchased a starter kit, which had a bunch of the basic oils, and a diffuser…and I’ve been using them every day ever since.
  5. One of my favorites so far is Lemon. I normally HATE lemon in my water…but not this stuff. I just cannot get enough of it. Every morning when I wake up that’s the first thing I drink. I also have it in my water bottle all day as well. The kids love it in theirs too. Apparently there are a ton of health benefits to using it, but I honestly would have to look it up to remember.
  6. I love, love, love Frankincense…I use it at night mixed in with my Egyptian Magic and in the morning with my daytime Aveda hydrating lotion. One drop goes a long way and my skin has felt tighter, more hydrated, and smoother.
  7. I was using diluted Lavender for nighttime for me and the kids but then found the Relaxation Massage Oil (which has lavender and a few other oils in it all premixed with a pump bottle) and I absolutely love it. This is my favorite product to date. It has literally changed how we approach our bed time routine every night.
    Instead of rushing (because honestly by that time of day we are prone to exhaustion and ready for the house to be quiet) we have slowed the process way down and we now read stories together as a family with white twinkle lights and battery candles. The kids are calm and the home becomes quiet and peaceful. They sometimes take turns brushing my hair (it’s adorable) while I take turns rubbing oils on each of the kids legs and feet while Matt reads to us all.
    It’s absolutely surreal….and exactly what I pictured life looking like when I daydreamed long ago of having babies. We then sing and pray together and even though there’s 4 young boys in this house they smell amazing and all sleep so soundly.
  8. I am far more intentional now to get out in front of sicknesses and help fight them before they get bad. Using oils does not mean that we never get sick, but I have noticed a huge, huge difference in the longevity and severity of the illnesses during the times when I use them verses when I don’t.
  9. I clean with oils now. I’m not so crazy (yet) that I have taken eeeeeverything that isn’t Young Living out of my home…but there’s a TON that I have simply thrown away. I clean my counters, tables, windows, floors, bathrooms etc…with Thieves. Personally, I just love that it takes up far less storage (our little Cali “cottage” does NOT have much storage in it at ALL) and these oils cost far less money because I’m only using one product.
  10. My kids clean with oils now. I have no trouble with them helping around the house using the spray bottle because I know how safe it is…and gosh, it’s so helpful to be able to have their help and not worry what they’re touching.
  11. The overall mood in our home changes whenever I take the time to diffuse oils. No, my kids do not become little cherubs with glowing halos, but I would say that the attitudes of everyone in the family do shift for the better.
    I’m also willing to admit that it might just be me though. Starting with breakfast, when I cook meals now I often put on music and diffuse oils while I’m in the kitchen. Instead of looking at that time to rush and hurry to get food on the table I’m much more calm, relaxed and truly do enjoy the process. Depending on what the family needs, or what season we are in will determine which oil I use. I loved the Christmas one during the holidays. Thieves and Peppermint together are always a go to…and I’m loving Orange lately because it just smells like spring to me.
  12. My favorite oil I personally use is Stress Away. I could be wrong, but I’m pretty sure it has a blend of lime and vanilla…and to me it smells like heaven in a bottle. I have a Stress Away roller in my room, my kitchen and in my purse…Stress Away is my new BFF.Okay, I’m going to stop here because this is just getting to be too ridiculously long. But if you want to know more please feel free to comment below, ask me in an email or text me if you have my number. Like I said, I know so little, but I will be happy to answer whatever I can.If you are interested in purchasing oils click heremeg marie signature w/XO**Disclosure: I am now technically called an independent distributor of Young Living. Any suggestions made on this blog are very specific to Young Living essential oils and should not be used with oils from another source. Statements made on this website about Young Living Essential Oils have not been evaluated by the FDA. These products and information are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. Anyone suffering from disease or injury should consult with a physician. If you are currently on medication, please DO NOT STOP.
    We have started our journey with Essential Oils and have done our own research on the purity of oils.  I am confident in using oils in our recipes because we only use Young Living.  They are beyond organic and never use pesticides, herbicides or any harmful chemicals. Their soil has never been exposed to them as well.  I don’t suggest ever using any other oil for ingestion because I do not know of the purity. I am not not taking the place of your licensed medical professional, I do not diagnose and do not take responsibility for your health. I encourage you to do your research and seek out conversations with medical professionals that you see regularly, love & trust. This info is for learning purposes only.  I’m not a doctor, just simply sharing what has worked for my family. Please consult a health care practitioner when making any changes to your medical routine. This information is not meant to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent disease.  I cannot promise you any certain results.